How To Create A Lasting Career Resolution In 7 Steps
When it comes to New Year Resolution, most of us think of eating healthier or going to the gym more. But a lot of people actually make career resolution. According to an Accountemps survey of more than 1,000 workers in the United States in 2016, 68 percent of professionals make career resolutions for the New Year.
The top 6 career goals are:
- Develop my skills
- Get a raise
- Get promoted
- Make a career change
- Get a new job in my field
- Build my professional network
It’s one thing to set resolution. It’s another to follow through.
Most people fall off the resolution wagon by the end of the 2nd week of February. So to help you crush it in 2017, I am sharing the 7 key steps I had used eight years ago to create a lasting career resolution when I decided that I wanted to pursue a career in the fashion and creative industry rather than lab work.
For a little extra push and motivation, I want you to also check out my freebie: 7-Steps To Creating A Lasting Career Resolution Worksheet. It is a 1-page PDF where I packed all the gems and steps from this blog post so you can print out and do the exercise alongside the steps below to make the resolution you want. Writing something down on a piece of paper always helps me solidify my thoughts. When I post it in my office somewhere obvious, it becomes as a reminder of my new pursuit. So for me, writing it out loud on paper is CRUCIAL if you want to more clarity and crush it!
So how can we make lasting and sustainable resolution or goal?
The key to creating long lasting change and stay consistent is getting to the bottom of the behavior that stops you from making changes. Here are the 7 steps I used eight years ago when I got stuck in trying to change my career path:
STEP 1. Find out what is the root cause of your fear, doubt, and uncertainty that is holding you back from making changes.
Let’s start with a common resolution of eating less as an example. You may ask,
“What is the reason that makes me want to open the fridge and eat even when I am not hungry?”
Is there a particular thought that triggers a certain emotional or physical discomfort that tells you to use food as temporary bandage to such discomfort? I know this is over-simplified but you get the point.
Now let’s apply it to the resolution of, say, finding a new job. So you want to get out of bed earlier to squeeze in some job search but you keep snoozing our alarm. You may ask,
“What is the reason that makes me snooze in instead of really wanting to get out of bed earlier to search for a new job or make new professional connections?”
Is there a particular thought(s) that triggers a emotional or physical discomfort that tells you to snooze as temporary relief to this discomfort? May be the discomfort is that you think you are not good enough or relevant, which makes you feel shamed and overwhelmed to even open up your computer.
So Step 1 is to ask yourself —
“What is the belief that led you to this inhibiting behavior at the first place?”
Is it because:
Spell it out. Sometimes, writing it down on a piece of paper or tell someone you trust can make it more real to you. If that is the case, do it in the way you are comfortable with. You can download my FREE worksheet here with the 7-steps outlined in this post.
Trust your instinct. Usually the first thought that comes to your mind is the answer. Don’t over analyze it.
Instead of focusing on the act (e.g. snoozing), it’s paramount to realize what is it that caused you to not follow through (e.g. feeling not good enough) in the first place.
STEP 2. When you think about this limiting belief, how do you feel?
Does it make you feel uncomfortable, scared, terrified, sick to your stomach, angry, defensive, want to run away?
Our common knee-jerk reactions to handling these emotions is to run away. And the common way for a lot of us to run away is by over eating, drinking, over sleeping, etc.
So your goal is not to stop snoozing. It is to stop running away from the fear, doubts and uncertainty (e.g. that you are not good enough) because that is what is holding you back from making long lasting, sustainable change.
STEP 3. What does this limiting belief make you do?
Does it make you judge yourself or others? Does it make you eat? Does it make you sleep in? Does it make you want to just binge-watch Netflix, or browse the Internet, or go on social media mindlessly? This is your limiting behavior.
If you have no clue what your limiting belief makes you do. Next time when one of the feelings you have in #2 surfaces, pay mental attention to what physical action your mind tells you to take. It can come really quick. Keep a log for a week and see if there is any recurring pattern that makes you avoid doing something that will get you close to your career resolution. In my 7-Steps To Creating A Lasting Career Resolution Worksheet, there is a log for this purpose. It’s a FREE PDF you can print out to follow along this exercise. Click here to download.
STEP 4. How does that behavior keep you stuck?
Does it keeps you stuck because you are afraid of change, judgment from others, disappointment, etc.?
Does it keeps you stuck because you believe that if you don’t have this behavior, you won’t be who you are?
STEP 5. How and what do you need to unstuck?
Do you need to feel safe?
Do you need to feel respected?
Do you need to feel physically full (in your belly)?
STEP 6. How can you create the feeling you need in order to unstuck without the inhibiting habit?
One way of removing a habit is to replace it with another. So if “snoozing” is your inhibiting behavior and you want to replace it with something else specifically in the morning, you may try programming your alarm to go off with a song or a person’s voice you love hearing. Something that gives you a positive vibe! It may be your favorite podcaster, R&B singer, or your mom’s joke.
Or you can forget about waking up early altogether. Instead, tie the behavior you want to adopt in order to pursue your career resolution to a current behavior or habit.
For example, you want to get a new job (resolution), but you believe that you don’t have enough skills (limiting belief). You snooze (inhibiting behavior) in the morning because you feel inadequate or irrelevant (the feeling from your limiting belief). You may consider allocating 5-10 minutes of your lunch hours to read/brush up on new skills that will help make you feel more adequate.
Or think about taking a colleague out for coffee or lunch every Friday (or even everyday) to broaden your professional network. Colleagues love any reason for coffee breaks!
STEP 7. Are you fed up enough and ready to change?
OK, you can think and want to change all you like. Here is some tough love. The fact is until you have reached a state where the pain of staying status quo is greater than the action of making change, you won’t commit. So ask yourself honestly AND compassionately, “Am I ready to change NOW?”
If you are reading this far, congratulations for devoting time to yourself!
Give these 7 steps a try. If you are like me who likes to write my thoughts down and post it somewhere that I can see everyday, check out my freebie PDF: 7-Steps To Creating A Lasting Career Resolution Worksheet so you have a dedicated physical space to work through your career resolution and, most importantly, crush it!
I truly hope that these steps will help you reveal your limiting belief (most of the time, they are self imposed), and crush it this year!
If you need more tools or guidance on figuring out your limiting belief, I listed two of my trusted resources that you may be helpful to you. I am not affiliated with them and I don’t make any money off of them. They are simply resources that I have personally benefit from and want to genuinely share with you.
Dina is the founder of InnerYoga, an approach to yoga and life that is cultivated both on and off the mat and integrates psychology, neuroscience, Buddhist and yogic principles. I studied with Dina initially in her public yoga classes in San Francisco Yoga Tree, and found her words and wisdom very digestible for someone like me who was never into meditation or yoga before. Then I went on to complete her InnerYoga teacher training — it was the best preparation for all the physical and emotional obstacles I was facing in corporate America and motherhood.
Dina's website: http://www.dinaamsterdam.com
When Dina is not available in SF or when I could not go to her class, I use Gabby’s digital portal to supplement my practice. She is the author of the #1 New York Times best-selling The Universe Has Your Back, as well as author of best-sellers Miracles Now, May Cause Miracles, Add More ~ing to Your Life and Spirit Junkie. She was featured on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday and The New York Times named her “a new role model.” You can find Gabby on her website and she has produced lots of videos on YouTube.
Gabby’s Website: https://gabbybernstein.com
Gabby’s YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/GabrielleBernstein
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Posted on 20 January 2017